Mind Spark # 25 - 3 Shifts to Boost Your Spontaneous Speaking
- Shujian Zhang
- Sep 24
- 2 min read
Updated: Oct 14
Have you ever been caught off guard in a meeting, during a Q&A session, or even in a casual conversation, unsure of what to say? Speaking on the spot is something we all face, yet few of us actively practice.
I recently tuned into Matt Abrahams’ Think Faster, Talk Smarter podcast (Episode #229: Rethinks—How to Speak Successfully When You’re Put on the Spot). It got me thinking about how small mindset shifts can make a big difference when we’re under pressure to respond. Here are three powerful takeaways that stood out:
Connection Over Perfection
Many of us strive to be perfect when we communicate. Matt suggests turning down that inner critic and focusing more on connecting with our audience. When we do that, our message feels more natural and confident. Remember: Perfection slows progress, and genuine connection always resonates more than perfect words.
See Opportunities, Not Threats
It can be intimidating to be put on the spot, but if we view it as an opportunity to connect, collaborate, or share our thoughts, we can transform our nerves into positive energy. Every question or conversation is a new opportunity. Try to greet each moment with curiosity, and it might surprise us what opens up.
Mistakes Are “Missed Takes”
Instead of worrying about mistakes, try to view them as part of the learning process. Each one is a chance to try something new next time. This way, we take off some pressure and open the door to creativity and growth. So, next time something doesn’t go perfectly, that's okay, and remember that it’s just another take.
As a longtime Toastmasters member, the Table Topics session has always been my favorite, yet also the most challenging part of meetings. These three mindset shifts will remind me that speaking off the cuff isn’t about perfection, but about presence, growth, and connection.
Matt also shares practical tools for speaking on the spot, such as a simple four-sentence structure for pitches: What if… So that… For example… That’s not all…, and the WHAT formula for giving toasts or feedback. These techniques help transform nerves into confident, clear communication. For more details and examples, check out Matt’s website.
💡 Mind Spark Takeaway: The next time you’re put on the spot, pause, breathe, and remember: aim for connection, not perfection, embrace the opportunity, and see every mistake as just another take. Your audience is rooting for you.
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